Guest Contributor: Marieke vanErven
Hey everyone! My name is Marieke and I am today's guest blogger. I am 21 years old, a full-time college student, and I work 35 hours a week too! It keeps me busy, but I can’t say I don’t love it, because I do. I’m super excited to share this post with you all and hope at least a few of you will find some of my tried and true advice helpful. Read away!
Let's be honest, we all want to say we are always in a growth mindset.... but this isn't true. More often than not if you check in with yourself, you will see you're transitioning to a fixed mindset. Slowly slipping back into old habits. And this, this is because we like being comfortable and growing is uncomfortable in every sense of the word. The growth mindset pushes us far outside our comfort zone. Now, the difficult part of getting into a growth mindset from a fixed mindset when you aren't necessarily ready, is insanely hard. I get that. I will be the first to admit, I often find myself stuck in a fixed mindset when I want to be in a growth mindset. So, here are some of my tried and true tips and tricks to forcing myself back into the growth mindset.
First of all, acknowledge that this isn't going to be easy. It's painful to force yourself to do something your mind isn't exactly ready to do. But it's necessary. If I wait until the moment, I'm ready to grow again, I waste a lot of time. And let me tell you, the moment I'm ready to grow I am incredibly productive. But until that moment, I must force myself to be incredibly productive. That's okay!! Next, write out your goals and ideas for getting yourself into that growth mindset. This way, you must be accountable. Look at these goals every morning. Heck write these goals out every morning. Trick your mind into wanting this! Fake it 'till you make it - my motto right there. And I know a lot of people hate that saying, but let's put it into context here: I'm faking my want to be productive and accomplish something, until my mind is ready to want that thing by itself. I'm subconsciously telling myself that I really do want this, regardless of what that little voice inside my head is saying to me. Then, find yourself some people that motivate you. Now I'm not talking brother, sister, mom, dad. These are all amazing motivators, but I'm talking podcasts, bloggers, people who you can turn on in the morning while you're getting ready and listen to them. Some of my go to's: Rachel Hollis, The MFCEO Project, Brendon Bruchard, Laura Vanderkamp with the Before Breakfast Show. These are the ones I turn to when I need to get it together and get myself going. Let me tell you, I have listened to podcasts by Rachel Hollis for a second, third, fourth, fifth time because they get me in the headspace I need to be in.
Here's where it gets a bit more difficult, because you're starting to get in the headspace to start getting things done... Keep a notebook with you while you're working on a task and write down other things that pop into your head. These can be to-do list items, things you want to know more about, things you forgot to put on your grocery list. Just write these down and commit to coming back to them later. When you get in the space you want to be in, other things you want to accomplish will start popping into your head. Finish the task you are working on!
Finally, understand that it's okay if you fall off track. It's hard to push yourself into a growth mindset. It is hard. Acknowledge that, and then give yourself the space to accept it if you fall down. But, get back up. Try again. We don't grow if we don't fail. And part of getting into the growth mindset, is failing. It is hard. I know that it is hard. Just remind yourself time and time again what you are working towards, then pick yourself up and keep going.
Remind yourself how amazing you are, and no matter where you are in your journey, you are meant to be in that space. Push for that growth mindset, but take a moment and acknowledge all of the hard work you’ve already put in. Keep pushing!