Guest Contributor: Breanna Guevara
Do you love who you are? Can you truly say you are who you want to be? If not, that's a good thing and don’t worry. I am twenty-two years old and still figuring out who I wish to be in this world. Growing up (I say this lightly because no matter how old you are, you will always be growing) I didn’t know who I was so I latched onto others and tried to be like them because I thought that's how you find out who you are. This was one thing I wish I would not have done, looking back on it I was morphing myself to fit in with people who did not care for me and that caused me to lose touch of who I wanted to be.
This is a picture of me, Breanna Guevara, where I am my happiest.
When I was in sixth grade, I cut off my all hair and rocked my mohawk like there was no tomorrow. I never knew how mean kids could be until this period of my life. I was bullied out of two different schools for simply trying to be myself. During this phase of my life I was honestly depressed and felt defeated in life. I was thinking so negative of myself and didn’t know who I was or who I wanted to be. I thought I could not be myself because other people didn’t approve.
“The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman because great on her own. The people around them help to make them great. We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the best version of ourselves.” This is my favorite quote from Matthew Kelly.
When I was in high school, I wish I would’ve kept this in the back of my mind. I was so desperate to fit in, I was keeping company with a group of girls who were mean. I was just as guilty as they were because I would watch on the sidelines while things were said or done, and I didn’t step in. I had been on the other side of this in middle school, so I knew how it felt, but I was more concerned with keeping the group of “friends” I thought I was lucky to have. I was only on the sidelines for my freshman year because when I went into my sophomore year, I decided it was better to have one good friend over a group of friends that didn’t care about how they treated others. I kept one close friend through high school and she’s still the only one I talk to after graduating high school 5 years ago.
I'm here to try to tell you that things do get better and I want you to hold yourself to a higher standard than some of your friends may keep. I want you to stay true to who you are and who you wish to be. Don’t shirk yourself to fit in with others! I promise, you will find a group of friends who help you grow the garden you are capable of growing in that beautiful mind of yours. I found my group of friends, who I consider family, right after I graduated high school. I never knew how much happiness could come from a group of people. They taught me it's okay to be overly in love with yourself and to strive to achieve what you want to achieve in life. I finally found where I belong and trust me, you will too. Don’t think that after high school life starts to go downhill, you're barley scratching the surface on who you are and where you will go.
Now I want you to re-read the first sentence again- you are capable of being in love with yourself. Speak to yourself nicely and watch what happens. Give yourself compliments and don’t listen to what others say, you are beautiful and a warrior. Life will not throw you anything you can’t handle, I promise you that. Find people that make you feel like sunshine, not people that make you stay in the shade, hold on tight to those people.