Guest Contributor: Alexandra Raye
If you’re anything like me, you are well aware that there is always some standard you aren’t living up to. Whether it’s beauty, income (or lack thereof), or relationships, there’s always someone or something that makes us feel like we aren’t good enough. However, in the last few years, I’ve come to the realization that accepting yourself for everything that you are (faults and all!) is the key to a happier and more fulfilling life.
For anyone who doesn’t know me, I wear a few different hats. I have a day job, I run my blog, I have a personal training business, and I’m an actress. Trying to fit it all in every day can be a challenge! To top it off, I struggle with anxiety. For so many years, I was trying to be everything to everyone, and consistently felt like I was falling short. When you start to feel that way, your mental health starts to decline. When you experience a few of these rough patches, you know it’s time to make a change.
As an actress, you are constantly being judged. It’s very easy to fall into that same mindset with yourself, and I’m living proof of that. It’s a voice in your head that constantly says things like, “You aren’t good enough.” or “Why can’t you do better?” and “Come on Alex, get it together!” Do any of those sound familiar? It can be detrimental, and wear down your self- confidence. However, the minute I started telling that voice to keep quiet, the more I started believing in myself. The more I started believing in myself, the more I started accepting myself. This was a game-changer!
The moral of the story is, we are all made exactly the way we’re supposed to be, faults and all. The key is to embrace them, and see them as something that makes you unique, not damaged. With the harshness the world tends to throw our way, we should be kind to ourselves, and remember that as long as we’re doing the best we can, that’s enough. We don’t owe anyone any explanations for being who we are. Most importantly, we deserve to celebrate ourselves for the beautiful, complicated, perfect human beings we are! I have this Lucille Ball quote framed in my house, and it’s one of the first things I see every morning. I wanted to end this blog sharing it with you: